Impressions of Singles Groups So Far
After a couple months in some local singles groups, my impressions of them are as follows: There is notable hostility between the men and women. Most of the folks I met weren’t ready for a new relationship. All because they wanted to deny their vulnerabilities, they constructed such defensive systems as individuality, independence, and self sufficiency. Then they judged folks like me, who didn’t adopt these attitudes. They called us needy, weak, and childish. Baaah! They trumpeted their ability to stand by themselves with sayings like, “Ain’t no one gonna break my stride,” “I don’t need anyone to fill me up,” “A relationship is just icing on the cake,” and “I’m protecting myself from you.” I heard this sort of thing all through my time at local singles groups so far. Lots of man haters in the groups.
Now I understand that people need to protect themselves. But they went overboard here, surely. Often because of sentiments like these, the singles groups seemed more like Relationship Haters Anonymous (RHA). I thought you went to places like these to connect with new people and perhaps find someone to date. But often the gatherings were full of cautious men and bitter women; most wanting more to show that they didn’t need anybody, rather than admit to any desires to find new lovers. Most were not very attractive either, and it is a pain to have to find transportation home each week.
So I’m not sure this venue is for me. But, what else am I going to do? At least it gets me out of my big empty house on Friday nights. Hopefully, they’re not all this protective. I’ll keep at it a while longer and see what happens.
