Are We Friends?
March,
Just wanted to talk to you a bit about our situation, as I perceive it. I sensed that you were uncomfortable at the banquet when you thought that I might want more from you than a friendship. So, I thought it would be a good idea to let you know about me, where I stand, what I want, and do not want, from any woman.
WHAT I DO NOT WANT
First off, I do not want to ever be married, nor have children. I’m a career oriented guy, and I have never really wanted children because of this. I haven’t the patience to raise them, and feel that society at large today, is ruining its young, by allowing them too many responsibilities at such tender ages. I am not looking for an exclusive relationship with any one woman. You see, I’m a reclusive person, which means that I like to spend much time by myself, thinking, studying, working, and giving thanks to the powers that be, for this wonderful life . It truly is wonderful. I’m just so grateful every day to be able to walk without pain, talk without effort, and hold down this terrific job that treats me so well. I’m just happy to be here. Happy to be alive.
Now I suppose that in my 20s, I wanted to have a steady, committed relationship. But after having been in and out of several real heartbreakers, I’m not willing to risk such pain anymore. I neither need nor desire a woman, to give my life purpose or completion these days. I am after all, a whole person by myself, and typically enjoy standing alone.
The fact that I don’t see well has no doubt helped shape these attitudes of fierce dedication to independence, which I hold dear these days. Why? Well, I have opened my heart up to many women, only to have them reject me because of the thick glasses I wear, or that I am unable to drive a car. Neither of these is my fault of course. But you know, if I could wave a magic wand and restore my eyes to perfect operation, shed the glasses, and buy a Mercedes to drive, I might. But then, I might not. I’m not really sure. My life has become so rewarding the past five years without these changes, that now, I don’t believe I’d change a thing.
Please understand, I do not blame the women for rejecting me, since what they feel (or do not feel) is, for the most part, beyond their control. They cannot after all, DECIDE who they will find attractive. I’ve just had to come to accept the fact that women are generally not going to want to date ME seriously, due to these issues in my life. And hey, I really understand how they feel. And I do not blame them. It is just a fact in my life that must be dealt with. And my current attitudes of being independent and by myself, embody my efforts to do just that, to deal with the situation as positively and productively as possible. Therefore, when speaking of you and me, you will not have to worry about me trying to get you to go out with only me or asking you to marry me, or wanting you to have sexual intercourse with me. I promise.
WHAT I DO WANT
However, even though I do not want a girl friend, I still like to be close to attractive women occasionally. The companionship is most energizing. Like at the banquet tonight, I really enjoyed sitting close to you, holding your hand, and, holding you. 
I love going out on the town now and then with pretty women (like you), having long conversations, listening to music, and checking out movies. And, as you know, I love giving massage, or doing anything, that moves me closer to ladies, when I need that closeness. Now I do not want that closeness all the time as mentioned above. A few times a month is sufficient. But when I am with somebody special, I strive to enhance the closeness, by being a good listener, who listens, without judgement, and makes the talker feel better for talking, not worse. It is also fun to read to them, or to have them read to me, to cook dinner, and brush their hair.
I do not want you to ever feel any pressure. I will never ask you to stop seeing any other male friends you have. But I would like to spend some quality time with you, March, enjoying some of these activities. You really are a beautiful young lady, worthy of being treated much better than you have been. Allow me to do that for a little while. Allow me to treat you like the princess that you are, to share my wealth with you, to teach you, to learn from you. And almost certainly you will come away from the experience a happier and smarter person than you were before. You game?
So, let’s do something next weekend. What do you think?
Later.
