Dear Lynn: Trust and Let-Downs
You are right. Disillusionment is a painful, yet integral part of the learning process as people come to know each other. First impressions, while important in determining one’s interest in pursuing the relationship initially, are very often wrong. And at some point, preferably sooner than later, one must learn of their incorrectness, and revise one’s view of the other accordingly. Thus, the disillusionment.
Never thought of the layers of trust being built up as the layers of chocolate or torn down. But yes, that makes much sense. As person A peels the layers of chocolate off of person B without bolting due to the discoveries he makes in the process, person B would begin trusting in person A’s loyalty. B would begin to feel that A could be trusted not to bolt as new layers of chocolate melt away, and would be more willing to reveal more of himself. The more revealed without negative reaction, the more trust is forged. Yes, I can see that.
Later,
Tom Hesley
