Tom's Love Quest

Had trouble retrieving your profile on match.com. The profile at that handle says that you’re a 69 year old male.

But you sound intellectual and friendly, and seem to have a flair for creativity with your art background. I’d like to get to know you better, yes.

I do not have full access to my email this week. My company has flown me to their home base here in Dayton, OH to work during y2k. Normally, I work in Philadelphia, and will be returning there on January 8th — assuming no serious Y2K issues are discovered in the meantime.

Had a great and very relaxing holiday over the past two weeks. How was yours?

Well, have to run for now. I’m catching up on over 750 new email messages since leaving on December 14th. So thanks for writing and do write again soon.

Later,
Tom Hesley

Okay, you got me on the Santa thing. Why did you have to save that note anyhow?

Okay, no more teasing about whining so long as you don’t say I’m whining whenever I am expressing a legitimate grievance.

Hope you continue sleeping well. We’ll get past this thing. We both have some mending to do.

So, you ended up with a ‘Charlie Brown’ Christmas tree. Well, with what you know about plants and arranging them, you should be able to turn that pale wimpish tree into a holiday spectacle to be marveled. Good luck.

Hope nothing bad happens to your electricity during Y2K. Sounds like your co op has it covered.

Well, have to run. Last minute packing. Talk to you soon.

Tom Hesley

Good luck,   [J].

Will call you in several days, after you’ve had a chance to recuperate a little.

Take care.

Tom Hesley

Hi   [J].

Going to be departing in a couple hours for Altoona. There, I do not have email access. This email “blackout” will continue until Jan.1st when I get to work in Dayton. So you have a wonderful holiday season. Hopefully, you can resolve the pain in your mouth before Christmas and will not have to suffer much longer.

Want to stay in touch by phone in the meantime? I’ll be at 814-742-yyyy over the next two weeks. I’ll be wondering how you’re making out.

Well, guess that covers it all. Take care of yourself, and don’t watch too much TV, unless of course, you’re watching Star Trek!  :-)

Tom Hesley

Hi  [Lynn].

[Lynn cancelled my visit to Maine at the last minute. I responded.]

No, it would take a little more than THAT to make me abandon our friendship, especially as good as you have been to me. Just don’t do it again, okay? A repeat performance might indeed cause me to bolt for good.

You fill a void in my life also. I love so much, just hearing your voice. I know, let ‘er up already!

Thanks for the words of encouragement. I’d like to think I know something about life. But I do not feel wise, and frequently feel as naïve as I was 25 years ago. Yes, the options will be pursued, and the dreams will be held fast to.

I’m glad we could talk calmly and rationally about the whole thing. We did all right. I hope we can talk more over the holidays. I’ll be at Mom’s for most of it at 814-742-xxxx.

On the gifts: You might want to hold on to them until I return from Dayton. But if you wanted, you could send them to Mom’s house and I’d get them for Christmas. Just address them as follows:

Thomas J. Hesley
RR X box YYYY
Altoona, PA 1660X

With the exception of a few days next weekend (when I go to Pittsburgh), I will be at Mom’s from the 14th of December until the 29th. Looks like I’ll be getting lots of mail there. I ordered the book J recommended today and it will be delivered there also. I have some things for you also.

Well, time for bed. So sleep tight, with pleasant dreams. Talk to you soon.

Tom Hesley

[Lynn],

In our last talk, you said that ‘the ball is in my court’ when we said good bye. I presume that this means that you’re waiting for me to make the next move insofar as determining the future direction of our relationship is concerned. Well, to be honest, I don’t believe this responsibility should be mine. It was YOU who ‘pulled out’ after all. Why should I risk further emotional hurt by once again making the overtures necessary to rebuild our association? I’ve already risked (and lost) much emotionally and financially where we are concerned.

No, if any salvaging of what we have / had is to occur, and if you want such a restoration to the way things were before this whole trip thing happened, then YOU will need to be the one to “court” me, and prove / re establish your trustworthiness.

I will say that repairing a broken trust and getting forgiveness is certainly possible, particularly if you have sincerity and patience on your side. If you do, then you’ll know what needs to be done to make things right again. But you do have an uphill battle ahead of you though, should you decide to move in this direction. Once bitten, twice shy. I will not trust in what you say so easily as I have during the past several weeks.

No, as we discussed yesterday, I cannot blame you for the misgivings you may have had that caused you to abort our planned vacation together. But I am angry about the ways and the timings you chose to respond and express those misgivings. But hey, once the anger fades, I suspect I will have a different view of this altogether.

Take care.

Tom Hesley

[Lynn],

I felt the same gap, even though I was at winter camp having a good time. I missed you, and it sure was great talking again tonight. Looking forward to tomorrow.

Later.

Tom Hesley