Tom's Love Quest

[Lynn],

In our last talk, you said that ‘the ball is in my court’ when we said good bye. I presume that this means that you’re waiting for me to make the next move insofar as determining the future direction of our relationship is concerned. Well, to be honest, I don’t believe this responsibility should be mine. It was YOU who ‘pulled out’ after all. Why should I risk further emotional hurt by once again making the overtures necessary to rebuild our association? I’ve already risked (and lost) much emotionally and financially where we are concerned.

No, if any salvaging of what we have / had is to occur, and if you want such a restoration to the way things were before this whole trip thing happened, then YOU will need to be the one to “court” me, and prove / re establish your trustworthiness.

I will say that repairing a broken trust and getting forgiveness is certainly possible, particularly if you have sincerity and patience on your side. If you do, then you’ll know what needs to be done to make things right again. But you do have an uphill battle ahead of you though, should you decide to move in this direction. Once bitten, twice shy. I will not trust in what you say so easily as I have during the past several weeks.

No, as we discussed yesterday, I cannot blame you for the misgivings you may have had that caused you to abort our planned vacation together. But I am angry about the ways and the timings you chose to respond and express those misgivings. But hey, once the anger fades, I suspect I will have a different view of this altogether.

Take care.

Tom Hesley

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