What Intercourse Means To Me
[Kel],
I hope I didn’t give you the wrong impression. Intercourse is still very sacred to me, and I will not do (and have never done) that with mere friends. No. The lady must be very, Very, VERY special, and I must be convinced, beyond any doubt, that she wants to see me, and ONLY me. Likewise, there would be no consummation unless I only wanted to see her and ONLY her. Certainly, she must not be interested in anyone else. Yes, I fully intend to remain celibate until (if ever) that dream girl walks into my life. However, in the meantime, I am content with kissing, holding hands, and leg massages. 
On the spiritual impact question: Yes, this had a profound impact. I am not the same person these days in that I ask people for what I want, much more freely now, than when I was living here. This means, of course, that I’ve had to give up some of my friends who were rather uncomfortable with my openness. But maybe they’ll come back someday if, heaven forbid, they are mugged or face a similar life-threatening experience. On my beliefs in God, yes, I still believe. But I’ll save that talk for when we meet.
Sure, [Jann] can join us for lunch. So far, the only day I’m not free is October 11th. All other days between now and 10/20 are open. Go ahead and pick one, and I’ll put it on my calendar.
Talk to you later,
Tom Hesley
