Consoling Mar
Hey [Mar].
Oh come on, Mar. Who is this man? You can tell me anything. 
Glad you’re feeling better about the whole John thing.
Depression often results from deprivation. It is essential, in order to maintain good mental health, that we humans take lots of successful steps toward our personal goals, and succeed in those steps in fairly short order. Perhaps in talking with someone, you might discover what you really want from life, and then learn what steps you need to take to get it. Of course, trying for a too-lofty goal (one that would normally take a long time to realize), and hoping for it to happen too quickly, can also have a depressing effect. Taking a too-big step often lands us flat on our backs. But therapy can help clarify issues and eliminate unresolved tensions and baggage if you find a good therapist. And it can help lay out a realistic path toward self-actualization.
Another other thing, Mar. People these days generally don’t leave themselves enough time in their busy schedules for thinking through their problems and discovering solutions. I know this would be hard as a mother, but if you could just spend an hour a day by yourself thinking about your situation, you might just be able to figure out what’s depressing you on your own.
Depression can also happen because of too much sugar and refined carbohydrates in the diet, and not enough of the correct foods (fruits, vegetables, whole-grains, beans, seeds, and nuts). Excessive simple carbos (sugar, dextrose, dextrin, maltose, lactose, sucrose, Etc.) cause high levels of insulin in the blood, which has a depressing effect. I have a book down home “Sugar Busters” that you might want to read. Alcohol can also trigger this in some people. The point is that your depression may be physical in nature, and not mental at all. Just something to consider.
Well, time for me to get to work. Take care and will see you next week sometime.
Later,
Tom Hesley
