Tom's Love Quest

Dear [Emeebee],

[Me, getting a bit frustrated at her repeated put-offs.]

Sheesh. What do you see in that guy anyhow? Based on what you’ve told me, I treated you far better than he does. I treated you damn good too. I never “decked” you or raised my voice to you. Never lied to or misled you with purpose. I communicated openly about my feelings and tried to create an environment in which you felt like you could do the same. I was willing to learn how to do some of the things you like to do so we’d have more things in common – dancing and the choir in particular. I opened my heart to you and offered to share a significant part of my life with you, several times over the years. I have proven my ability to generate and sustain wealth, keep a good job and a house. Yet you repeatedly deny my requests for romantic time together. What is your problem? ? ? Hmmmmm???

I’m left wondering why you don’t respond to my good traits, which I shouldn’t have to tell you, are abundant. Why can’t you see that? If you were perceiving things clearly, you would choose to love me, instead of making time with him. You have eluded in the past to my weakened eyesight as a limiting factor in how far we might go romantically. Yet, apparently, it is YOU who has trouble seeing things as you should see them. And this, I submit, is the real reason why our relationship never flourished and was so limited in its duration and extent.

Happy Valentine’s Day to you too.

Tom Hesley

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• Therapy Session: 2009-02-21

Hi   [First Love].

Tom Hesley here. How are you?

Had a charming conversation with [Zacca]tonight. She suggested I email you, as you were out when I called.

I am coming to Pittsburgh during the first week in April. Wondered if I might spend a few days with you and [Zacca]. It’d be great to catch up on everything/ You know, it’s been over 10 years since we last saw each other in person, and I’m hoping that this time isn’t extended much longer. Let me know, if interested. My phone number is 215-969-xxxx.

Congratulations on your business. Quite a needed achievement, if I understand your scope as it truly is.

Take care, and hope to hear from you soon.

[She never responded.]

Tom Hesley

Dear [Emeebee],

How ya doin’? How’s your love life these days? You and [your last honey that I knew about] still together? I was thinking I’d shake up some lucky woman from Dayton, and surprise her with a round-trip plane ticket to Philly. Of course, she’d have to agree to spend the week here with me, without any romantic inhibitions. That lucky woman could be you.

Tom Hesley

Dear   [Cassee],

December 19th, 1960. But I’m not giving you my social security number.

Actually, someone got hold of my ATM card number while I was in Ohio and went on a $500 spending spree here in PA. Not sure just yet how much of that I’m going to have to pay for, but the bank says, “probably nothing.” *Phew*

Well, they’ve [my bank] disputed the charge that AT&T Wireless tried to put through on my account. That means that AT&T must provide documentation that shows the signature they obtained (if any) when the charge was made. If the signatures don’t match, I’m off the hook, slam-dunk. But if they do, then it may take a bit more work, but I’ll still probably be off the hook, and not have to pay any of that. Apparently, some thief bought a cell phone and set up an account for it, at my expense!!! The nerve.

Tom Hesley

Dear   [Cassee],

Just wanted to make sure I didn’t forget to send you something (a card, email, whatever), on that special day [her birthday]. Putting it on my calendar now. Hope you’re doing well. All is fine here.

Tom Hesley

Dear   [Beejay],

Hi there.

Did you work out a mutually acceptable arrangement between yourself and the current owners of that little farm house you wanted to buy?

When is your birthday? Want to get it on my calendar, so I remember to send you a card.

All is well here. Busy as all-get-out. But I like it that way.

Tom Hesley