Tom's Love Quest

Dear   [Lynn],

Well, right now, [moving to LA is] just a thought. If I do it, the move wouldn’t happen until late 2002. And hopefully by then, they’ll have most of their power problems straightened out. Besides, I want to allow much time to consider this before going ahead, and to make sure that my motivations remain valid over the long haul and are more substantial than just short-lived, impulsive, whimsical desires and lofty expectations. Further, I must be certain that the problems I’m hoping to solve out there, cannot be corrected here. So, what problems?

As you may have guessed, desirable female companionship continues to elude me here in southeast PA. I’ve gone to singles events, book stores, bars, parks, responded to personal ads (on the web, in magazines, and over the telephone), talked to ladies in grocery stores, buses, trains, and so on. But nothing has “panned out” so far.

Among the problems causing this, is that very few eligible ladies here attract me. Perhaps this has something to do with Philly being the “heaviest” city in the nation – statistically, more people are overweight here than anywhere else in the country. The mayor here has been making big deals about this on national TV (Oprah) since this fact was discovered last year and trying to rally support for change. Of the women that do interest me, most are either married or otherwise emotionally unavailable – have boyfriends, are single moms, are being stalked by ex boyfriends, and so on. The few that ARE eligible, say that they’re looking for someone over 6′ tall (which I am not), or who wants to have children (which I do not), or who makes over $100,000 per year (which I do not – at least, not yet. ), or, they are prostitutes, and want cash for their affections (which I will not give them).

At first glance however, LA seems like it might address these issues somewhat. Statistically, opposite of Philly, it’s one of the “thinnest” cities in the country. A much greater percentage of women there are within the bounds of healthy weights. I draw this conclusion from looking at over 1300 personals in LA and about 1200 from Philly. It appears that the kind of lady I’m seeking, is much more common in LA, and so there’s not the run on it there, that there is here. More “beautiful” ladies are available there for dating, and, as one might expect as a result of this, their parameters for the men they’ll consider, tend to be less restrictive. So, it may be easier to find potential matches there. More of them seem less interested in children and don’t care as much about their men being taller or shorter than themselves. Plus, there are many more vision-impaired ladies there, than here.

Now I really don’t care if my lady is sighted or blind or in between per se. But each type is nice to date for different reasons. With a vision-impaired gal, there’d be more mutual empathy shared between us regarding the reduced sight, since she and I would share similar difficulties of functioning productively in mainstream society. On the other hand, there are few things more enjoyable than hopping in my lady’s car (or pick-up ) and driving to the shore for a pcnic or to the mountains for a weekend getaway — places that are generally inaccessible via public transportation. Either way could work for me.

However, finding high-achieving vision impared ladies here in Philly has yielded no prizes. Most do not do white-collar work and so the mutual empathy I mentioned above becomes rather limited. In LA with so many more of them, finding some that are productive professionals and authorities in their fields, should be easier. When hunting for elephants, as the saying goes, you go where the elephants are.

LA has close to six-hundred different bus routes, many of them running buses every eight to ten minutes during week-days. There are only one-hundred-thirty-two routes here, many of which run infrequently. However, this argument for moving to LA is somewhat weaker than the dating one above. Had the Philly demographics been more suitable for me, I could have gotten by quite happily, with only three or four routes.

Career wise, LA has more opportunity than Philly. Downtown LA is more accessible from greater distances than center-city Philadelphia is. And, there appear to be more companies out there focussed on computing and related products. Looking into this further though. I hope to visit there for a week this fall to get a first-hand look at the place, the companies , city hall, the chamber of comerce, and of course, the beach.

But the earthquakes? Yes, that’s a problem. *grin*

Later.

Tom Hesley

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