Tom's Love Quest

Dear   [Tina],

Yes, I am located in the Bustleton section, way up here in the far northeast, about three miles from County Line Road [in Philadelphia].

Where are you?

Sleep well.

Tom Hesley

Dear   [Vee],

Hi honey.

Well, looks like you’ll be up north until February. Sorry about that. I know how much you wanted to relocate sooner.

Sorry I haven’t sent your more cell phone mail. I’ll send you some.

Happy tenth birthday to [your son].

Why does [your husband] want to relocate with you, if you guys are getting divorced? Sounds like he may have designs on keeping you two together.

You’re young. Don’t feel old, sweetheart. We both have lots of living to do, together I hope.

Love you babe.

Tom

Dear   [Vee],

Hope your tests go okay this week. I’m concerned about you, sweetie. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Tom

Dear   [Juanita],

Ah, wonderful. My b-day is December 19th. I’ll be 41 this year.

Cool on the Redsfest. Email was very quiet today, with most of my team at that event.

Would you mind giving me your home address and phone number? I’m at:
xxx Red Lion Road
Apartment Y-Y
Philadelphia, PA 191xx

Phone: 215-969-xxxx.

Tom Hesley

Dear   [Vee],

[Vee thinks I'm pressuring her to raise the stakes in our relationship. She didn't like my pointing out that I don't like our conversations being interrupted so frequently.]

I understand all that. And I’m not asking you to move any faster than you are. I have no designs where WE’RE concerned, meaning that I’m not hoping to be with you next week, next month, or next year for that matter.

All I’m saying is that if we’re going to talk, I need you to be aware of my feelings, as I have been aware of and, I might add, very understanding and considerate of yours. And my feeling is that I don’t like our phone conversations abruptly ending, especially the way it’s been happing so often lately (several times a week). It’s almost as though you’re blowing me off. Just when I get settled into the conversation, and enjoying hearing your voice, the connection goes dead. I sincerely hope you’re not hanging up on me, on purpose. If you are, then we have real problems, before we even get started.

Let’s assume that all these disconnects have been accidental. And I believe that they have. Then I would expect you to call me back immediately, or at least, at your earliest convenience, and not leave me hanging for hours, or sometimes days. I’m not trying to make demands of you. I’m simply telling you what I need from you if I’m going to feel good about moving forward with US. I’m sorry if you feel that I’m pressuring you. But this is just the way it is. I can’t go on keeping quiet about things that bug me.

I love you very much, and always will.

Later.

Tom

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Dear   [Juanita],

Hi there. You ignoring me?

Hope you’re healthy and all is well.

Later.

Tom Hesley

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Dear   [Pat],

Hey, you ignoring me? I hope I didn’t scare you.

As of this morning, I’ve lost 4 of the 5 camp pounds. The rest will be gone by this weekend I hope.

Tom Hesley

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Dear   [Vee],

I don’t like repeated interruptions to our conversations.

Tom

Dear   [Kar],

You never did answer my question the other night. What happened to my foot fix? You mad at me or something?

Later.

Tom Hesley

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Dear   [Vee],

I must run downtown this afternoon to do a bit of book shopping, so you may not reach me if you call. I will forward my home phone to my cell phone in case you do call. Hope your day is going well. Get lots of sleep tonight.

Love ya.

Tom