Vee Under Pressure
Dear [Vee],
[Vee thinks I'm pressuring her to raise the stakes in our relationship. She didn't like my pointing out that I don't like our conversations being interrupted so frequently.]
I understand all that. And I’m not asking you to move any faster than you are. I have no designs where WE’RE concerned, meaning that I’m not hoping to be with you next week, next month, or next year for that matter.
All I’m saying is that if we’re going to talk, I need you to be aware of my feelings, as I have been aware of and, I might add, very understanding and considerate of yours. And my feeling is that I don’t like our phone conversations abruptly ending, especially the way it’s been happing so often lately (several times a week). It’s almost as though you’re blowing me off. Just when I get settled into the conversation, and enjoying hearing your voice, the connection goes dead. I sincerely hope you’re not hanging up on me, on purpose. If you are, then we have real problems, before we even get started.
Let’s assume that all these disconnects have been accidental. And I believe that they have. Then I would expect you to call me back immediately, or at least, at your earliest convenience, and not leave me hanging for hours, or sometimes days. I’m not trying to make demands of you. I’m simply telling you what I need from you if I’m going to feel good about moving forward with US. I’m sorry if you feel that I’m pressuring you. But this is just the way it is. I can’t go on keeping quiet about things that bug me.
I love you very much, and always will.
Later.
