Tom's Love Quest

Dear   [Vee],

[She said she misses the old times which her and I shared.]

Well, the new times aren’t too bad, are they? I luv ALL our times.

Sorry I missed your call. Was in a 2-hour meeting this afternoon. Try back later. I’ll be looking forward to it.

Did I ever tell you the Ba Ba Ba Ba story?

Tom

Dear   [Vee],

Wonderful hearing from you too. Can’t wait for the next time.

Be careful.

I still love you too.

Sure thing. I dream of doing that [baking cookies with you, naked] some day.

Yep. You better wear [sunscreen]. Don’t want you to have more skin problems.

Tom

Dear   [Vee],

I need to find a pretty lady, to pose for pictures, for the front of the book I’m writing. This lady must be “an American man’s dream.” And since you seem to have no problems getting guys to look at you longingly, I thought you’d be a good choice. She shouldn’t have to wear any makeup to appear beautiful, and I’d like to show, not only her face, but her whole body, from head to toe. The premise of the book is going to be something like, “Stop dreaming of your dream girl, and start dating her.” Interested?

Tom Hesley

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Dear   [Vee],

Hi there. I did get your call a couple weeks ago, but couldn’t understand most of what you said. You were fading out a lot. But I enjoyed hearing from you.

I figured that. The [cell phone number in your] email address was a dead giveaway.

Take care,
Tom

Dear   [BB],

Well, work is keeping me very busy. We’re writing a new electronic document management system in the Java programming language. This will allow other groups within our company, to build web site applications that require quick access to our document warehouse.

Did you say that you have a job as a carpenter? Cool! You did seem to have an interest in that sort of thing when we talked at Diane’s place a while back. I’ve not known too many women who have such an interest.

What sorts of things do you build for the theater? That would be interesting to hear about. You ever do any wiring?

Well, don’t study too hard, and make sure you’re getting enough rest. That will help keep your grades up. J

Talk to you more later,
Tom Hesley

Dear   [BB],

Will do. Best wishes for a successful term this winter.

I went to Pitt about 15 years ago (one of your sports rivals I’m sure), and they had 15-week terms. Their winter term ended at around the end of April. I hope you won’t be in school for all of that time between now, and June (summer).

Don’t eat too much college pizza. It ruins the figure.

Later,
Tom Hesley

Dear   [BB],

Yes, I remember very well how busy going to school and working jobs on the side at the same time was. I don’t envy you. Best of luck. I’ll pass along your regards.

How often do you get back here, and when are you coming again?

Later,
Tom Hesley

Dear   [BB],

Wasn’t sure if I had your correct email address. But this is Diane’s brother, Tom. Yesterday, Diane mentioned that you have an AOL account. So I thought I’d say hello. If you are not this person, then I’m truly sorry to have bothered you.

Later,
Tom Hesley

Hi there.

So glad you’re back online, and that you received my tape.

And, was thrilled to hear that you’re sight has returned – truly wonderful news.

Yes, the vertigo (dizziness) can be quite debilitating. Will keep you in my thoughts and send positive vibes your way, in the hopes that you’ll get over that problem very soon. I’ve known others with inner ear problems and remember the agony they went through. Not fun.

Yes, your “other” dizziness certainly cannot be fixed by a pill. For that, try dying your hair dark brown, so that you don’t have any blond in it anymore.

Was JP the guy you’ve been dating? I did not realize he was ill. Was he having problems with his heart when you were at camp this summer? I vaguely remember you mentioning something about it (I think) but cannot recall the details. At any rate, losing a loved one is quite a significant loss, even if you were having problems. However, I do recall that you were having some troubles in that relationship even last summer. So even if you had been able to talk more when he was in the hospital, chances are that you wouldn’t have really resolved anything, considering that you likely spent lots of time before he became bedridden, to work things out. Sometimes, people don’t see eye to eye, a fact that often is glossed over and ignored by society. Often, we’re expected to get along well with everyone with whom we come in contact. And if we can’t, we’re judged harshly. But trying to accomplish that, is probably an unrealistic goal in most situations. Sometimes, all the talking in the world won’t straighten things out. Whether or not two people relate well is determined by many more factors besides how often or how long they communicate. Upbringing, genetics, education, and life experience, things over which we do not have much direct control, also impact on our ability to “jive” with people, making it harder to understand some, easier to understand others. So, I hope you’re not feeling guilty, or inadequate, or that there’s more you should have done or said, to make the relationship better or to better enable him to rest in peace. Even if you had talked to him for 1000 hours (which you probably did since the beginning of your involvement with him), you still would be able to find more to say to him after he passed away. Here now. You did everything you could, over a rather long period of time. If you are blaming yourself for falling short where [he] was concerned, please don’t. He just might not have been “the right guy.”

Haven’t heard from Ray since getting his Christmas card. I do need to call him though. Time to start planning for this summer at camp.

I bet you’ll give your grandchildren lots and lots of good memories of nights spent with you. My grandparents were such wonderful people. The last of them, my grandmother Jewell, died 22 years ago. But they really gave me a great start in my life. Gram often had me spend the night, and then would make a big breakfast of eggs, bacon, hot cakes, bagels, muffins, and such, the next morning. Even today, I can still recall hers and grandfather’s voices, talking in the kitchen, as I awoke to the smells of coffee brewing and bacon frying. What a peaceful, safe feeling those noises and smells used to induce in me. Your grandchildren will probably have similar memories of you, since you seem like such a loving person where they’re concerned.

And, speaking of Altoona being a long commute, well, I wondered if you’d care to come and visit me for a couple days in the spring. I’d like to take you to Rails to Trails and walk for a few hours, visit a couple amusement parks in the area, and show you our malls, and to get better acquainted in general. I have high-speed Internet access, so you could check your email often. You would have your own bedroom while here. too No pressure there. Let me know if you’d be interested, and we could make some arrangements.

Well, I have to get going, and finish up some work around the office here. So take care, thanks very much for writing. Be healthy, and do take good care of yourself. Will talk to you again soon.

Later,
Tom Hesley