Nothing Against That Guy
Dear [BB],
[Here I am, playing therapist again.]
Don’t misunderstand. I have nothing against [that guy you like] per se. I’d warn you to stay away from ANYONE who does not return your loving feelings and acts of affection, whether it would be [that guy you like], or the president of the USA. 
I don’t feel that [that guy you like] is a bad person. He’s just behaving like most anyone would, who is not in love. Not his fault. Not yours either. Since so many factors in love are beyond our control, a person cannot make him/herself fall in love. This is one reason why so many poets, songwriters, and people in general consider falling in love so magical. It’s a blessing perhaps, a gift from the universe if you will. That is to say that Love is bigger than the people who bask in it, as neither one can take credit for making it come or go.
You may be able to be friends with [that guy you like] someday. But it would be best to wait until you’re completely out of love with him before you try. And this can take many years sometimes. I had to avoid my [first love] for close to a decade after we broke up, before I could be her friend.
But even then, it was rough because I was still attracted to her, and she to me a bit. If there was intimacy, that history makes friendship even harder.
So, often, it’s just better to let someone go for good. None of us is so unique that we cannot be replaced. That is, you either have, or certainly will make many male friends in your life. In a few years, [that guy you like] will seem like a distant memory once you know some other fellows.
Later,
Tom Hesley
