Bob is Angry
Wednesday, March 31st, 2004Dear [LizDee],
Perhaps I should steer clear of people who know Bob. This is not the first time in the past year that he’s created problems for me with his gossip.
At any rate, let me set the record straight. I want to get to know you. Nothing more at this point, nothing less. My interest in you thus far is limited to doing that, and getting your cheeks of course. But I can’t say for sure if I want anything more yet, and won’t know that until we spend significant time together in person. I thought I communicated that to you from the start. If I haven’t, I apologize and will endeavor to do a better job at it in the future.
This was however, the message I attempted to relate to [Emmy] about us. But perhaps things got distorted as the message flowed from me to [Emmy], then to Bob, and finally to you.
Now, I admit that I have downplayed my interest in you to [Emmy], because she’s still hurting over what happened between her and I. Any time your name comes up, she gets all quiet and jealous. So to save her pain, I haven’t told her yet that I’m coming to visit you, nor that you and me talk dirty on the phone at times. This aspect of our relationship (and where it’s going) is neither hers nor Bob’s business.
Let them gossip if they need to commiserate with each other. But don’t let them drive a wedge between us.
Finally, the last time I said anything significant about you to [Emmy] was just after yours and my first email, around mid-March. Back then, I wasn’t even sure I wanted to get to know you. I had learned that you were a smoker and expressed my doubts to [Emmy] about how far things might go because of that. She knows I don’t like cigarettes.
But since then, I’ve indeed developed interest in exploring the future with you, especially since you’re trying to quit. Rest assured that I’ve been as honest with everyone involved here as I can be without needlessly hurting anyone.
No, you didn’t steal anybody’s boyfriend because [Emmy] and I had broken up almost a whole month before you and I began talking. She knows that.
Oh, and by the way, contrary to what Bob says, [Emmy] is no threat to you. She’s very gentle and doesn’t have a violent bone in her body. She’s not interested in fighting you and wouldn’t ever hurt you.
Perhaps we should stop talking to our exes until we see where this thing is . It sounds like both [Emmy] and Bob have axes to grind where we’re concerned. So we need to regard anything they say with suspicion. Whether intentional or not, they may be trying to ruin things for us because they’re not getting what they want, from us. You’ve said yourself how much of a storyteller Bob is, and how he blabs things that really should be kept quiet. So remember this the next time he says something about us to you.
I’ll call you later this morning to discuss further.
