LizDee Likes Tom
Dear [LizDee],
Well, it’s nice to know that I have qualities that attract some ladies. Sometimes, I doubt that. But I’m glad you appreciate me for who I am.
Can you spell ‘illuminate?’ *snicker snicker*
You have helped clarify and strengthen my beliefs on human attraction. I’m a full believer in love-at-first-sight, and you seem to feel the same. There, I guess we validated each other on that one.
No, I learned long ago that attempts to change myself for anyone only frustrates them and makes me feel inadequate. WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get). Nothing more, nothing less. I’m just me.
This is not to say that I don’t change at all. I do. I’m a different person from one day to the next, depending on the knowledge gained in the previous day. I change all the time, learning, and growing in my own way and at my own pace. But I generally avoid brute-force changing, where I must force myself to conform to how someone else wants me to behave.
Change comes easy when I understand why doing it would be beneficial for me. It’s much harder if I attempt it simply because someone else wants me to. There must be more substantial reasons for it than that, if I’m going to successfully achieve it.
Talk to you later,
Tom Hesley
