Popular Emmy
Dear [Emmy],
I’m not saying that you should have NO friends. I just mean that you are too friendly with males at large, and this will surely get you into trouble. Perhaps this is why Ron thought you’d want to fool around with him — because you went off alone with him and acted too friendly to him.
At summer camp, though we hadn’t gone out on an official date, by the time the pool incident with Bob happened, we had been kissing and checking each other’s bodies out for over a week. I had told you that I loved you, and it was obvious to everyone except you perhaps, that you and I were more than just friends, and that we were building a romance together. Given the level to which our relationship had advanced by that time, I felt it was inappropriate for you to hang out with Bob in the pool. And I told you that right away. So don’t say that you just didn’t know how I was feeling.
As far as the way you cried about Bob goes, yes, I believe that an appropriate level of concern about him is nice, and proper. But the way you broke down when you learned that he had gone through bypass surgery, suggested that you had more than just friendly feelings for him. And this is even after the fact that he put his hands all over you on the train to the retreat. In my opinion, you didn’t do enough to discourage him from hitting on you.
I would like to fall in love with you again. But because you’re so popular among the males and that you encourage them to come into your life so much, I’m leery of [doing that].
You might work on making more girlfriends if lots of friends is what you need, and generally stay away from guys unless you’re dating them. No, you can’t help that so many guys find you attractive. But you can indeed control how you respond to and encourage them. You say that you can’t help that they like you so much. But I disagree. You can control this to a degree by how nicely you treat them. This is where I believe you need some work. You might talk to Grace more about this. She seems to understand it and could give it to you from a woman’s perspective.
