Dear Heather
Dear Heather,
In match, you can have them email you new matches every day. Your profile was in today’s mailing. I responded because I liked your smile and blond hair. Plus, you’re tall. Tallness melts me, instinctively. Then, when I read your profile, you seemed intelligent and witty, and a good person over all, whose values seem to sync up with mine in the important ways. Finally, when you said that your feet were your best feature, I knew I’d be writing you because besides the lips and cheeks for kissing, a woman’s legs and feet are what I find to be her most sexually appealing parts. It seemed like we might connect on that level, especially since you responded to me, after, presumably, you read my profile where I said that my lady should like being touched and kissed down there often.
On the fatness / thinness discussion: I can’t say for sure exactly what makes the electricity flow and the knees weak, which I get with certain women. But weight seems to be an important ingredient. But it’s by no means the only one since there are plenty of very thin women out there for whom I feel nothing. “About average” is okay too. Most of the people I’ve fallen in love with through the years described themselves as “average.” But to me, especially once I was in love, they had become top-notch.
Height seems to be another important factor that controls that instant attraction for me. I’m most excited by women who are my height or taller. Now I’ve always been a legs-and-feet man, and perhaps it’s because the tall women have longer legs that makes them so magnetic to me. But once again, height by itself doesn’t make a lady beautiful. There are plenty of tall and thin women that don’t interest me at all. Female basketball players for example, I’m not attracted to. Maybe they have too much muscle or otherwise look too much like men. I don’t know.
Personality is probably the other necessary ingredient for love to flourish. If a woman has an IQ of 25, she can be the tallest and have the best proportioned body around. But she wouldn’t interest me. I like someone who can talk at length about issues, someone who doesn’t run away from an argument and will remain engaged with it until both sides together come up with a solution they both can live with. This is particularly important when (or if) she decides to end the relationship. I would hope that she’d have the courage to discuss her decision with me, and not just leave with nary a word.
Believe it or not, people often skip out like that. It’s happened to me several times now. Lots of music has lyrics that describe just that situation. So I hope to find a good communicator – someone who communicates well to the very end. Once again however, personality and intellect themselves don’t tell the whole love story.
I believe the falling-in-love feeling comes for a lady who somehow (probably beyond her control) manages to achieve the “right” balance of all these ingredients with honesty and no pretense. There can’t be the sense that she’s hiding, exaggerating, or otherwise misrepresenting something about herself. No, I’m not particularly moved by lots of make-up, fancy clothes, and perfectly manicured nails. As long as she’s clean and not sickly, she’s got a good shot at my heart, even if she’s wearing old jeans with tears in the knees.
I tell you all this now because so many people today assume that guys want JUST a beautiful body. Past girlfriends have chided me because they felt I focused too much on the body. But I hope you realize that to me, the body shape is (yes, a very important ingredient to be sure) but not the only important one. In fact, without good personality and a body that appeals to me, love will simply not come. To me, the personality and body are equally important ingredients in the confection of love.
But enough philosophizing for now. I’ll talk to you more, once you receive my picture and decide that I’m attractive enough for you to get to know better.
