Fear is My Friend, Not My Foe
This revelation about the fear and how I no longer see it as a defect or something to be taken care of, eliminated, or reduced even, encourages me. I now see it as a good thing to have, for it’s a great sixth sense about women if you will. It’s a sensitivity to their feelings, and this is what I’ve been trying to squelch over the years. No wonder, given my seemingly innate sense of their feelings, I couldn’t ignore it for long.
I’ve been trying to suppress that sensitivity. I’ve done it with alcohol from time to time. I’ve tried to placate it with therapy and so many other things, but the bottom line is that that is what I was doing. I was trying to suppress it.
I understand now that if the woman does feel something for me, I’ll know it, and my fear of approaching her will subside. My experiences prove this. I have not found that defying that fear by going against what my intuition is telling me, is very effective at getting the girl. Rarely it works, but the success odds are very low.
Prior to learning this, I put myself through a lot of needless trauma. I mean, in many cases where I’ve approached women, my subconscious mind said “No, she doesn’t like you. Stay away from her.” But I didn’t listen. And I pushed forward, and yes, she chided me for it. These women rightly put me down: Hey, what are you doing approaching us? We don’t like you.
Though this hurts, I must respect them, because if I give any inkling that I don’t, I’ll lose out. Most definitely. Even with someone who might have liked me otherwise, if I show a flagrant disregard for her feelings by ignoring her nonverbal, preverbal communication, she might think twice about me. As best I can perceive the non verbal communication of body language, I must pay attention to it. I need to interpret it properly, and then listen to what my subconscious mind tells me, through my own feelings and emotions.
June 14th, 2010 at 9:32 pm
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