It occurs after years of dating, that perfect tens only stay that way for an instant. Then they become as human and flawed as the rest of us. Makes one wonder at the long-term advantage of a ten; particularly once the novelty fades. After it does, the tens feel just like fives and sevens; and twos sometimes.
I’d further say that intellectually and emotionally, the pureness of the person’s heart is the real measure of their capacity to provide long-term enjoyable love; not so much how pretty they look. Indeed some days, I’m almost ready to renounce beauty — or more specifically, the novelty of it. But then I remember how much fun a “beautiful” woman can be in the beginning of a relationship. In those early days, beauty can intensify the romance and be quite the potent aphrodisiac. It makes those times in a budding association perhaps the most memorable. So, I just can’t bring myself to totally dismiss it yet.
I admit that I’m guilty of picking women initially based on how their looks impress me; though good appearance won’t get them very far if they have little upstairs. I like a sound, knowledgeable, and in-depth mind also; coupled with great morals and compatible values on family, religion, political affiliation, and so on. But without that initial romantic appeal, it’s harder for me to get excited about spending the necessary time together to advance the relationship into a more emotion-based state of knowing each other well. When it comes to how to attract women, I still believe that we do so when we’re at our best, and there’s nothing that moves me to the best I can be more than a lady who appears initially stunning. Yet I’m often disillusioned at how temporary this excitement is.
Maybe because I’m getting older, I’m starting to think that the only real advantage that someone who looks appealing has over another who does not initially, lies in the first week or two of meeting them. After that, they’re both the same, and this was certainly NOT the way I wanted things to turn out. But it does seem to be the reality; in spite of all the media hoopla over beauty and how beautiful women are by default more pleasing sexually, and can remain that way for longer periods. Yes, as a boy, I bought into all that. But now at 49, I think I just might have been wrong. Hmmmmm. Now I’m definitely not sure of this mind you. But I see it now as a distinct possibility.