Tom's Love Quest

Dear reader,

To those who can’t find true love I dedicate this blog. If you’re lonely and missing the desirable folks you want in your life, then this is for you. In these articles from my journal, I’ll talk about what’s kept true love away from me, including fear, shame, misunderstandings about what true love is, and low self confidence. You’ll read of how I’ve crossed these barriers by fixing my thinking mostly. I’ll share some of my most moving love stories, and offer the insights I got as I went; ideas which spiced my journey with fulfillment and enabled me to press on. I’ll mention the frustrations, and how I got around them. But also, you’ll get my successes as well, along with what made them work for me. In short, you’ll have a detailed map of both the happy and sad aspects of my love quest, that will hopefully help you find victory in yours.

Now as you know, the quest can be brutal since we encounter many obstacles while in it. We see fear between us and true love. Also, advancing in the quest demands that we put ourselves first (at least, AT first). Not an easy thing to do without a healthy self-esteem. Plus, the hunt forces us through much rejection., and it can set us at odds with the very people we desire; especially once they learn that we want them. You know the scenario well: We want them. Then we ask them out. They reject us. Then we feel lousy. Too many go-arounds like this can drain our self-esteems so that we give up the quest too soon — before we’ve won.

If you’re tired of rejection, then you know that keeping the faith can be hard. It’s tempting to think that what you want is nonexistent or not worth the fight. But my mission is to restore your optimism and belief that that you can indeed win the love game. I hope to show that true love does exist, and encourage you to seek until you find it; your dream relationship(s). You can’t afford to lose this game because you won’t stop longing, or ever achieve the most happiness you are capable of feeling,  unless you win your own love quest.

One of the hardest parts of my journey was that I walked much of it alone. Few friends were as openly obsessed with winning this game as I. I believe that this made the quest more painful than necessary. So with this podcast, I offer you what I had too little of; a consoling, helping hand and a voice that understands. Please know that you are not alone.

While I have no quick fixes, I hope you’ll find relief from the despair of being alone as you read these stories and meanderings. May they inspire you with the sense that you’ve learned something useful here. May they entertain and move you to take that next step in your own love quest. May they help you find your true love.

With love,
Tom Hesley