Dear [Linda], Regrettable that we were unable to connect romantically. But I do hope that you’ll still be my friend and that you do not feel uncomfortable, should we see each other at the parties. I’m not angry. It just wasn’t … Continue reading
Hello. It’s Tom here again with some background about me to help put this whole love quest thing into context. Let’s see. I’m a 48 year old single white male. I never married, never had children, nor do I want … Continue reading
Dear [Melinda], But before I get to that, I’d like to make some initial comments. I wanted to include a few definitions (for the words pity, compassion, and empathy) here for your consideration. Just follow the links to see them. … Continue reading
Dear [Melinda], Yes, clearly it’s no good to go through the motions and pursue a long-term relationship / marriage if one really doesn’t want to. Society should not compel them to do so. I agree. Further, I’m with you on … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Yes, I still believe that the more we approach, the greater our chances of finding a true love become. However, when I adopted this overly simple strategy in 1990, I was surprised to encounter such a high percentage of romantic … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Well, you’ve beat at least two major addictions in your life: alcohol and snuff. Now that you’ve got years of sobriety, and know deeply the necessity not to waver, hopefully no woman or career will ever make consider drinking … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Seeking pity love might make me seem like a desparate man because it seems to have more downsides than upsides. Details here. But at this point in my love quest, I am desperate. My love quest is a war I’m willing to … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Well I recently moved closer to overt compassion questing, by revealing the vision impairment in my telephone profiles once more. Since then, responses showing interest have filtered in at the usual trickle rate, but none from any hot … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], See my Tom’s Views –> Self Actualization – A Strictly Internal Affair piece for more details about Maslow’s self-actualization concept. But if we accept [Abraham Maslow's] needs hierarchy [triangle] as gospel, the state of self-actualization, that does not rely … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Well, the possibilities of a blind person becoming a jet pilot would seem to be markedly lower than mine of finding my dream girl, and so his dream would be more unrealistic as a result. After all, I … Continue reading