Tom's Love Quest

These girls wooed me the most over all.  Not that they   all   produced the greatest sexual or romantic desire and gratification, though some of them did.  But at times while either pining for or dating each of these, I felt I could be with no one more suited to my tastes, morals, values, education level, religious beliefs, social status, and so on.   While grazing in these ladies’ pastures, the grass immediately surrounding me was always the greenest.  Indeed, there was no such thing as greener grass on the other side of the fence.  There may have been   equally   green grass; but none greener.  I sensed that I was dating among the best I could, and that there was none better.  Now I’ve dated many others besides these.  But only relationships forged with the ladies in this list appeared to be the best that a relationship could be; at least for a few months to a few years anyhow. 

And now, the list:

1. [First Love]   in 1972 through 1990.
2. [Molly]   in 1974.
3. [Ann]  in 1974, and briefly in 2004.
4. [Maniac]   in 1975.
5. [BT]   in 1976.
6. [Shaina]   in 1977.
7. [Dawn]   in 1979.
8. [Cher]   in 1981 through 1983.
9. [Andrea]    in 1982.
10. [Shelly]   in 1983.
11. [Shanee]   in 1983.
12. Paula Eide    in 1984.
13. [Fannie]   in 1984 through 1987.
14. [Kate]  in 1986 through 1987.
15. [Lenee]   in 1988.
16. [Elstan]  in 1988 through 2002.
17. [Cassee]  in 1989, 1994, and 2000.
18. [Renee]   in 1990 through 1991.
19. [Juanita]   in 1991, 1994, and 2001.
20. [Roberta]   in 1991.
21. [Chrissy]   in 1993.
22. [Emeebee]   in 1993-1998, 2000-2001.
23. [Carlene J]  in 1993 and then again in 2000.
24. [Melinda]  in 1995, and briefly in 2007.
25. [Alandra]   in 1996-1997.
26. [Judith]   in 1997-1998, 2010.
27. [Vee] in 1997 -2002, 2006.
28. [Kar]   in 1998-2002.
29. [J]   in 1999-2000.
30. [Lynn]  in 1999-2000.
31. [Beejay]   in 2000 through 2001.
32. [LizDee]   in 2002 and 2004, briefly.
33. [Emmy]   in 2003, and 2005.
34. [Kandi]  in 2003 through 2005.
35. [Ballerina]   in 2004.
36. [Linda]   in 2009.
37. [Miss Independent]  in 2009.
38. [Prism]   in 2009.
39. [Elsee]   in 2009.

Click on each name link to see the posts that pertain to that lady.

Take care.

Tom Hesley

Dear [Mentat],

Taking what you can get until you find better is perfectly okay, so long as you communicate to the woman who loves you that this is precisely what you’re doing. My friend [Emmy] is a better-than-nothing in my life right now, and she knows that she’s not ultimately what I’m looking for. She wishes she was and only grudgingly accepts that she isn’t. Yet she still comes here, and we have a wonderful time. She benefits from her involvement with me, even though that probably won’t lead to marriage or anything more committed than it is at present. I don’t lead her to think that anything more is coming, and routinely discourage such thinking on her part. Her friends tell her that I’m using her. But she responds that I treat her very well, that I’ve been very open and honest about my feelings, and that even if it ends tomorrow, while she might be a little sad, she won’t think that I was exploiting her. If only we could find dream girls who gave us these terms.

I think I could live day to day with a goddess. I wouldn’t mind being her better-than-nothing, and wouldn’t need to be   the best. Well, I mean, I’d like to be the best in her eyes, but I could still find much happiness in her arms, even if she only considered me a stop-over.

I doubt you could ignore her weight [if she was too heavy]. But that’s something you’d have to figure out for yourself should the opportunity ever arise.

Tom Hesley