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	<description>Thomas J. Hesley&#039;s Account of his Quest for True Love</description>
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		<title>Sad Love Songs Of The 70s List</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2012/06/04/sad-love-songs-of-the-70s-list/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 04 Jun 2012 16:07:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Anyone who&#8217;s been reading this love quest understands that the journey has largely been a sad and unfulfilled search for true love, particularly during the 1970s.  At that time, my adolescent desire for puppy-love companionship was all-but-completely thwarted by my intense fears of &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2012/06/04/sad-love-songs-of-the-70s-list/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Fall In Love, Lose Weight!</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2011/03/05/fall-in-love-lose-weight/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 06 Mar 2011 01:10:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The contents have been moved to   Best Weight Loss Plan.   Enjoy. Tom Hesley &#160;]]></description>
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		<title>Vulnerability And Love Go Together</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/10/06/vulnerability-and-love-go-together/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Oct 2010 15:20:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Advice]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I believe that vulnerability is a necessary ingredient of true love, because you can&#8217;t fully enjoy another unless or until you lower those protective emotional barriers. You can&#8217;t love unless you trust. But when you trust, you open yourself up to &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/10/06/vulnerability-and-love-go-together/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Bitter Sweet Attention</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/07/10/bitter-sweet-attention/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 10 Jul 2010 16:24:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Advice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Attraction]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Deception]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Self Esteem]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I heard from [Kar] yesterday.  She left me voicemail, curious about how Mom is doing since the heart failure diagnosis last week.  That was sweet of her to remember my family in these trying times. Now I do not normally let a call &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/07/10/bitter-sweet-attention/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Rethinking The Plusses Of Beauty</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/21/rethinking-the-plusses-of-beauty/</link>
		<comments>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/21/rethinking-the-plusses-of-beauty/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jun 2010 16:13:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Attraction]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Beauty]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Myths]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Novelty]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[It occurs after years of dating, that perfect tens only stay that way for an instant. Then they become as human and flawed as the rest of us. Makes one wonder at the long-term advantage of a ten; particularly once &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/21/rethinking-the-plusses-of-beauty/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Coping With The Ultimate Rejection</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/14/coping-with-the-ultimate-rejection/</link>
		<comments>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/14/coping-with-the-ultimate-rejection/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Jun 2010 21:24:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Advice]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[So I brought up Facebook this morning, all cheery and ready to put in another day in earnest at the love quest.  But then, I got stung in a most egregious fashion, as I noticed that a girl I’d pursued &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/14/coping-with-the-ultimate-rejection/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Judy&#8217;s Silent Rejection</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/07/judys-silent-rejection/</link>
		<comments>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/07/judys-silent-rejection/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Jun 2010 21:35:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Aloneness]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Loneliness]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[From audio journal episode:  AJE-2010-05-31-21-52.  I thought when I got back in touch with [Judy] a few weeks ago (details  here), that things would be different this time.  But so far, we’ve only talked once on the phone in nearly &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/07/judys-silent-rejection/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Necessary Verses Needless Rejections</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/04/necessary-verses-needless-rejections/</link>
		<comments>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/04/necessary-verses-needless-rejections/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Jun 2010 18:42:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Fear of Rejection]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[From audio journal episode   AJE-2010-05-07-19-30. Some folks experience getting rejected more than others (what authority ever said that life is fair?).  But in the end, we’ll all experience at least a little rejection; whether in love, career, or any other &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/04/necessary-verses-needless-rejections/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Water Park Musings: 2010-06-02</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/02/water-park-musings-2010-06-02/</link>
		<comments>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/02/water-park-musings-2010-06-02/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jun 2010 01:27:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Acceptance]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[I spent last Saturday afternoon at DelGrosso’s water park, people-watching.  Well, more precisely, GIRL-watching, and as I looked on, the following ideas occurred: It’s best to look for a new lover when it’s warm outside because the heat prompts girls to reveal &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/02/water-park-musings-2010-06-02/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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		<title>Avoid Distracting Compassion</title>
		<link>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/01/avoid-distracting-compassion/</link>
		<comments>http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/01/avoid-distracting-compassion/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Jun 2010 13:22:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Tom Hesley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When an already-existing attraction is suppressed due to prejudices, diagnosis biases, and ill-informed judgments, eliciting compassion might work to persuade someone to lower these barriers and allow their underlying feelings to come through.  But the joy of being kind is &#8230; <a href="http://tomslovequest.com/2010/06/01/avoid-distracting-compassion/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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