Dear [Mentat], See my Tom’s Views –> Self Actualization – A Strictly Internal Affair piece for more details about Maslow’s self-actualization concept. But if we accept [Abraham Maslow's] needs hierarchy [triangle] as gospel, the state of self-actualization, that does not rely … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Oh, and as far as mates having opinions being preferable goes, yes, I suppose it’s good if people have lots of them in a union. Maybe. To a small degree. But often, beliefs, particularly when strong or radical … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Man, you sure have a way of opening up cans of worms! Yes, a Worldly [lover] brings more to talk about into a relationship, which is a real advantage once the sexual lust fades into the background. Assuming … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], You can fail at anything. You can succeed at anything. It just depends on the standards you apply. Set them too low, and success means nothing. Set them too high, and success can’t happen. I took piano lessons … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], We’ve been talking about the obsessive quest for love; you sighting its disadvantages and wanting to stay clear of it, and me its proponent, embracing it and attempting to show why it’s necessary to the excellent man. Continuing … Continue reading
[Mentat], Actually, I didn’t realize immediately that this was tongue-and-cheek. But that’s okay. Your invitation gave me an opportunity to reflect on my own history with women, and work, and my interests both internal and external to relationships. As a … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], Yes. When addiction becomes so strong that it compels you to throw good sense out the window, then it must at least be better understood, if not suppressed. Unfulfilled cravings drive many to exude antisocial, counter productive behaviors. … Continue reading
Hi again [Mentat]. [Alandra] was a blind woman I met at camp in 1996 who may have even surpassed [First Love] in terms of desirability. Her parents migrated here from England. Thus, she had an air of European sophistication. Quite … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], I agree. If I was one hundred percent convinced that [Lenee] was in truth my dream girl, then no one’s negative opinions of her would have lessened my desire to date her. You’re right. My family’s cool reaction to [her] … Continue reading
Dear [Mentat], You are a wise man. Much more so than you realize. You’ve managed to put words to feelings that I’ve struggled to express since I broke up with [Lenee] some seventeen years ago. I too feel that usually, dating … Continue reading